As we near one of the most celebrated “day” of the year across the world, “Valentine’s day”! I thought, why not have some insight into the root cause of this celebration! Love!!!
So, how many varieties of love? We can categorize many – mother-child love, brother-sister-sibling love, friendship love, man-woman love…like this, we can go on. Like many types of transactions, there are in the world, as many types of love affairs, we can have.
From songs and poems to novels and movies, romantic love is one of the most enduring subjects for artworks through the ages.
Historical, cultural, and even evolutionary evidence suggests love existed during ancient times and across many parts of the world. Romantic love has been found to exist in 147 of 166 cultures looked at in one study.
When we love someone, we experience a deep sense of care and commitment towards that person.
Love is an emotion that keeps people bonded and committed to one another. From an evolutionary psychology perspective, love evolved to keep the parents of children together long enough to survive. The period of childhood is longer for humans than for other species. As offspring rely on adults for many years to survive and develop the skills and abilities needed for successful living, love is especially important for humans.
Without love, it is difficult to see how the human species could have evolved.
The English expression, “Falling in love,” is significant because no one rises in love or climbs in love. You fall in love because something of who you are has to go. If not the whole of you, at least a part of you should collapse. Only then there is a love affair. You are willing to destroy a bit of yourself for the sake of the other. It essentially means someone else has become far more important than yourself.
Every action that we do is in some way to fulfill certain needs. If you see this, there is a possibility that you can grow into love as your natural quality. But people go on fooling themselves into believing that the relationships they have made for convenience, comfort, and wellbeing are actually relationships of love. I am not saying there is no experience of love at all in those relationships, but it is within certain limitations. It does not matter how much “I love you” has been said if a few expectations and requisites are not fulfilled, things will fall apart.
When you talk about love, it has to be unconditional. There is really no such thing as conditional love and unconditional love. It is just that there are conditions, and there is love. The moment there is a condition, it just amounts to a transaction. A convenient transaction may be a good arrangement. May be, many people made excellent arrangements in life, but that will not fulfill you. That will not transport you to another dimension. It is just convenient.
What you do, what you do not do, is according to circumstances around you. Our actions are as the external situation demands. What you do outside of yourself is always subject to many conditions. But love is an inner state – how you are within yourself can definitely be unconditional.
Here I have quoted the well-known yogi Sadhguru as he has defined LOVE in one of the best ways I could imagine.
Hope this insight to “LOVE” helps you in having a better relationship with the ones’ you love 🙂
The week of valentine, you will also enjoy some tiny love stories!
LOVE and be LOVED!!!